Everyone’s Broken

Last spring when things got hard with my TBI journey, I was crying to my best friend saying, “I feel so broken!” Her response to me was, “Everyone’s broken.”

It’s amazing how God can use the honest words of a friend to wake us up.

Yet, it was not the response I was hoping for just then. I yearned for words of comfort, instead I felt like my brain injury was being undermined. Of course she didn’t mean to hurt me, it was my emotional state of brokenness at that time.

Then God did something in my thought process and heart that only He can do. He showed me that even though what she said to me came at a difficult time in my life, those two words are 100% true and I needed to hear them.

The problem with chronic pain, illness, or severe bodily injuries is that they can make a person extremely self absorbed. It’s impossible to not be so fully caught up in the pain and suffering that scream for our attention 24/7. We can’t help but forget that others we love have issues of brokenness in their lives and are just as broken. They may not be broken physically, yet in some way they’re broken emotionally or spiritually. Everyone’s broken.

In Ann Voskamp’s book, The Broken Way, she writes on how Jesus was broken first, so that we can be healed by His brokenness. She writes, ‘Could all brokenness meet in the mystery of Christ’s brokenness and givenness and become a miracle of abundance?’ I’ve often dwelled upon these beautiful words. Everyone’s broken, yet Jesus meets us in our pain and since He overcame all brokenness we are made whole by His broken body on the cross.

I’m so blessed to have a wonderful friend and sister in Christ who understands the big picture here. Her words have stayed with me and kept me from throwing myself a huge pity party or turning into “Debbie Downer” on tougher days of dizziness, nausea, pain, fatigue etc. and staying there. I still struggle with negative thinking, but those two words keep reminding me, that even though there’s a big, sad world of suffering, there’s a bigger God who meets us in our suffering and brokenness and gives us hope to keep fighting.

Author: Viv

I'm a spoonie Blogger grieving the loss of my husband who went home 2/13/22.

45 thoughts on “Everyone’s Broken”

  1. So well said, Viv! Thank you for sharing your journey and reminding me that Christ’s brokenness can make our brokenness into something beautiful.


  2. Thank you for sharing this, it’s a beautiful post and a great reminder of God’s faithfulness! It reminds me of the song He Knows by Jeremy Camp. I listen to that song every time I start to feel alone in the pain that brain injury brings, and I’m reminded that not only does God know my pain, He is right there with me through it all.

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    1. Mandy, I’m so encouraged by your heartfelt feedback and by finding your blog today! I love Jeremy Camp as well. My 14 year old daughter introduced me to the song Sparrows by Jason Grey last year and it too got me through tough days and nights. My favorite line is, ‘You may feel alone, but you’re not on your own.’
      Blessings as we journey together. Hugs.

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      1. A pleasure

        β€œβ€™early bird’ (very) sleep-walking through life” craig

        * thanks m and β€œfirst thing” am is my best time (by far) when I get most things done


        Best wishes from the First City to see the light

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    1. Wow! My mama says the same but all along I thought it was a biased view even though she is very wise and I value her insight. So, coming from a well seasoned Writer like you means a great deal to me because most days I feel like a literary potato!πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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      1. πŸ™‚ Thank you for the kind words! And your mama is right!

        You are anything but a literary potato! From what I’ve read in your posts, you lay out steak, potato, dinner salad, blueberry cheesecake served with glasses of good ole southern sweet tea! It’s even more impressive to me when I read what you wrote about struggling with the screens and lights at times to write it due to TBI!

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      2. LOL!!πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Thanks Jeff, it can be very difficult but our Lord is greater and gives me strength I never knew I had. I’ve also put a yellow night shade app on my phone that’s helping my eyes a lot. πŸ˜ŽπŸ€“

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  3. I find an odd kind of comfort knowing that I’m not the only broken one out there. It’s not something I can control. It’s part of this crazy, broken world we live in, and that give me hope. It reminds me that this isn’t the end, that one day the brokenness will end, and that only in Christ are we ever whole.

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      1. It really is! Ooh, I’d love to learn to knit! I like crocheting because it keeps my hands busy. I started a few years ago, so there’s still a lot I can learn. There’s nothing quite so satisfying as making something with your own hands for the people you love!

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      2. Knitting is a bit more difficult for me but is easier on my hands and in the amount of yarn I use. Oh, I could talk about this all day, it’s so much fun and I agree, very satisfying to give love to others in bits of yarn turned into lovely creations!


  4. I have noticed that crocheting takes up quite a bit of yarn! I’ve worked with plastic grid and made coasters nearly all my life, and those take hardly any yarn at all compared to crocheting. Plus, I’ve been doing those so long I’ve gotten pretty creative with them XD I’m the same! I could go on and on!

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  5. Aw, I can’t tell you what that means to me. 😊 Personally, I thought it was high, but the people I’ve spoken to said it wasn’t. No one’s been interested so far, so I’m thinking about dropping the price. I’m working on a pink, purple, and white one now. Oh, and a Tetris blanket! I keep pictures of all my work so I can remake any of them or mix and match. What do you like to make?

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    1. It’s so hard for non crocheters/knitters to grasp the time and effort involved in making things. Basically, we end up making pennies per hour based on how long it takes us if we charge low. Some people will see the value and pay but most want low prices like at Wal-Mart. 😣 Sounds just lovely! I’m not familiar with the term Tetris, I’ll go Google. πŸ˜‰ I enjoy making hats, scarves, cowls, boot cuffs, blankets, throws, placemats, dish rags, face cloths, loofas….really anything with yarn. It’s such fun and I’ve taught both my girls to knit and crochet. The youngest crochets but oldest prefers knitting. I like to collect fun furry weird yarn too!πŸ˜‰

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      1. That is SO true!! Between the yarn and the hours, those blankets, afghans, and even scarves and such are truly under priced in the market.

        Oh! Tetris is an older game. It’s my mom’s favorite, so I made her a themed blanket. It’s where the different shaped blocks fall from the sky and you have to sort them out to make lines. Well, I guess it’s kind of hard to explain! It’s a neat little puzzle game and really taught me a lot of my packing skills, Haha! I wish I knew how to put pictures on here, so I could show you. I was so proud of it. I spent over 100 hours working on the blanket. I think I worked on it for seven months from start to finish.

        Ooh! I don’t know how to do anything that isn’t square or rectangular yet. I want to learn to do circular things like hats and such. I never even thought of making loofas with yarn! That is so awesome!! Sounds like an amazing variety of creations! Ooh, I love looking at the different colors of yarn they produce and matching them up into different schemes.

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      2. Coralie, I thought of you today when my dear neighbor dropped off a huge box full of colored yarns in acrylic and cotton! I wish you lived close by so we could go through all this fun yarn together.

        I think maybe you would enjoy my Pinterest board and if you had questions I’d be delighted to help you.

        I thought you’d like this Board on Pinterest… https://pin.it/pstqsctrrsxokz

        I’m excited about learning Tetris! Sounds super fun and after our recent conversations, getting more yarn, I’m super charged and inspired to get busy creating!

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      3. That sounds like the best playdate idea ever! πŸ˜„ Have fun going through that goldmine!

        Oh, I’m sure!! I’ll definitely check it out! Thank you so much!

        I do hope you like it. It’s challenging and fun and yet simplistic and cathartic sometimes too. I’m so excited to see what you come up with!

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      4. I’ve been crazy busy with my sister’s band camp, and it’s not over yet, but I just checked out the pinterest link you sent and I LOVE IT! There are some AMAZING creations o there!!!

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      5. Hi Coralie! So great to hear back from you. I’ve been actively pinning on there for years and always looking for new, interesting things to try. Feel free to join my board and send pins to me. I’m so glad you loved it! πŸ˜„

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      6. I’m not actually sure how to do that…but I’ll look into it. Yeah, most of those creations looked way advanced for my stage, but I am really looking forward to trying to grow and learn! I loved the mermaid!! I’m a total mermaid geek. I’d love to learn to do that one. I also really liked the Pondoland Square (spelling??), the shawls, and all the little mini flowers. Oh, and the adorable baby accessories! Okay, I could just go on and on! I love it!

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      7. I’d love to help you in anyway I can. You can always email me any questions or links too.


        Yes, the baby stuff is so much fun to make and sells well. Especially dazzed up with the tiny flowers in pretty colors. I used to have a Facebook shop that did very well especially during the holiday season but it got to be too much work with my health infirmities. I sure loved it though. I’m going to look up the Pondoland square because I’ve forgotten what it looks like. πŸ˜‚ So much fun!!!! πŸ˜€πŸ˜‰


      8. Thank you!! That’s so kind of you! I’ll keep you in mind when I start having questions.

        Ooh, that’s really neat! Maybe you’ll be able to get it back up and running one day. I’ve never used Facebook as a shop before, but I’ve seen others do so. Oh! I thought the design was just beautiful. It was a pillow covering, I think.

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  6. Wow, Vivian!!! I just want to share, I saw your comment on a blog I follow and I instantly felt a connection. I knew I should have checked out your blog then, I was really tired at that point. But when I saw you follow my blog today, I really felt like God wanted me to make sure I checked out your blog, and I’m so glad I did ❀ I love and appreciate the raw truth you share!

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    1. Isn’t it amazing how God leads us towards others! I’m thankful you found my comments, I’m thinking on godly chic diaries blog? I followed your blog because of your sweet smile in your picture and because of Jesus in you. πŸ€—β€

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      1. ❀ yes, her blog!! Praise the Lord, you see Him in me πŸ™‚ that is a wonderful compliment and glory be to God! I'm slowly going through your posts, so I hope you don't mind some likes and comments πŸ™‚

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      2. I certainly do! Awww, you’re welcome.☺ Oh, wonderful and take your time, I enjoy comments and likes are so encouraging as I’m pretty new yet I think to blogging. πŸ˜„

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      3. It took me almost a year to feel settled with blogging. I started late June, 2016 but it was not till 2017 I started to really work on blogging, and I handed over my blog to Christ. When that happened He helped me write consistently, and He allowed inspiration of ideas to flow which had never happened before. And then He pushed me to get to know the community and I am so thankful He did. ❀

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      4. It does take time to get used to new things and blogging would have never crossed my mind as something I COULD do. Yet, God pushed me out of my comfort zone finding much purpose and healing through writing as I recover. Exactly, hand it over to God and watch His perfect plan unfold! Amen!! Hugs! 😚

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  7. Beautiful!! Sister Vivian!! I personally strongly Agree!! Brokenness has built me into Who!! and Whom Jesus Christ been waiting for me to be this day. Through my own Chronic pain. It has not been easy!! But I’m only making it with Jesus Christ Help!! I’m thankful and grateful!! It’s all about ((Truth)) and that Is Who Jesus Christ Is. He Never Lied!! He was all about Truth. There were some who didn’t wont to hear the truth. And there were some who had been waiting for it. God Bless you for sharing. We are going to make it in the Name of Jesus Christ. I’m proud of you!! Agape!! ((Hugs)) Shalom!! \0/\0/ πŸ™‚

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  8. Wonderful post Vivian. I can relate to your situation so I know how tough it can be at times. Thankfully, God does reach into our lives through the words of others as well as His own word. Keep clinging to that and to Him. He’ll see us through. πŸ™‚ ❀

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    1. That means a lot Tina! I reposted it since it was my second blog post, so other newer folks could read and relate. I’m thankful you took time to read and comment…..I know you get it.❀ Yes, He is amazing and faithful in bringing helps to us through which means He chooses…..hugs!πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

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