The Accident That Took Home My Friend Herm.

On March 7, 2010, my friend, mentor, and neighbor of eight years, Hermione Joy Wommack, was killed by a drunk driver slamming into her SUV head-on at 80 miles per hour. Reports say his blood alcohol levels were 2x over the legal limit and he was driving without a license.

Let me take you back to that day.

On March 6, 2010, I gave birth to my youngest daughter and final baby. I telephoned Herm later that day to tell her the good news and see if she could come take a peek at my new bundle of joy at the hospital. I was greatly looking forward to her visit because she and I had both recently moved miles apart and hadn’t seen each other in months. She told me she could visit the next day since it was Sunday and a bit less hectic for her. I was due to return home Monday, so I assured her Sunday was perfect and couldn’t wait to see her again.

Herm, an Argentinean high school Spanish teacher, had always been a precious friend and neighbor to me. Going through difficult times in the early days of marriage and job loss was made easier by her wisdom, counsel, and prayers. There wasn’t much I didn’t tell Herm and her presence in my life was constant.

There would be times when I would open up my front door to find bags of gifts awaiting me that she cleverly sneaked there. Generosity was always nothing but second nature to Herm.

I vividly remember watching my oldest daughter, who was three at that time, putting on the gorgeous Sunday dress Herm had given her and walking next door to show it off to Herm before church. I can still see Herm’s smile as she knelt down to admire the dress, and my daughter trotting proudly back across the lawn towards me.

Sunday evening March 7, 2010 at around dinner time, Herm came into my hospital room, and immediately took my newest baby in her arms. It was so good to see her again. She and I caught up a bit and I promised her I would come visit her at her new farm they had just bought in the country. I grabbed my digital camera and asked for a picture. She said she looked awful since her grandkids had been with her all day and they’d been gardening together. I assured her she looked great as always and began snapping away.

Herm holding my youngest just moments before her death.

I’m so glad I did. Those were the last pictures ever taken of Herm, for only an hour later she was taken to heaven.

She was on the phone counseling another friend when the drunk driver, a man named Mark Elliot, slammed his vehicle into her Honda SUV.

Her husband later told me she had the presence of mind to tell the police officer his phone number and he arrived at the scene to be with her in her final moments.

The news of Herm’s death hit me very hard. One friend tried to comfort me by telling me that Herm could have been killed before she saw me and then I would have never seen her, visited, and gotten photos of her. For years I felt guilty for asking her to visit me and experienced severe grief and remorse. Knowing Herm, she would have told me to stop.

“STOP CHICA” is what she would have said. Herm never let me wallow!

Whenever I start missing her and feeling remorse, I’m reminded that God is still in control, even in this crazy out-of-control world. He was with Herm in her final moments comforting and ministering to her. He came to her that night with His hands outstretched towards her saying, “Come Home Child”. She was driving along Leesville road that night journeying towards her true Home in heaven.

She was never alone in death. Knowing Herm, she was praying hard as her body breathed it’s last and God answered by giving her peace and everlasting happiness in heaven with Jesus her Lord.

1 Corinthians 2:9 King James Version (KJV)

9 But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.

This verse gives me comfort knowing that right now Herm is experiencing delights unimaginable in heaven that await those who love Him.

Several years before her death, Herm shared this scripture verse with me from 2 Samuel 15:26. ‘But if he thus say, I have no delight in thee; behold, here am I, let him do to me as seemeth good unto him.’ I’ve highlighted that verse in my bible with her name marked beside it. It encourages me to surrender to God’s will for my life and to hand over everything to Him saying, ‘here I am’. Whatever seems good to God is what’s best for me. It may not always look like it at the time but I’m trusting, as my Herm did, that He always knows what’s best. Always.

So many have been killed or severely disabled by drunk drivers. Although my brain injury is not from drunk driving, I’m still heartbroken when I find other TBI survivors (there are many) robbed of their happy lives by the carelessness and selfishness of others. It needs to STOP.

In honor of my friend Herm, please share this post with others.

Herm and my two oldest making Christmas cookies together Christmas 2008.

The article that explains the accident and sentencing of Mark Elliot.

http://www.newsadvance.com/go_dan_river/news/man-pleads-guilty-in-wreck-that-killed-campbell-county-teacher/article_818e9b0a-2f8d-5be4-9dde-d98c7886015e.html

Author: Viv

I'm a TBI warrior whose hope and strength comes from God.

27 thoughts on “The Accident That Took Home My Friend Herm.”

  1. So tragic!😒 People’s inconsiderate choices can change lives in seconds, often irreversibly. Thankfully your friend knew Jesus before she died, so you’ll get to see her in heaven one day.

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    1. Yes😒 That is my comfort in all of this. Her accident happened on a Sunday that she was able to attend church and partake of communion which brings comfort in knowing that Jesus was in her mind and heart the entire day. She is forever in heaven with her Lord Jesus. ❀

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  2. Vivian, this a powerful, beautiful, painful story that really is a picture of even Jesus’ death. Herm, even when hit by the drunk driver, was on the phone helping someone else! You have honored her faith and memory, and from the way you have described her, she would not have wanted anything to change a bit for her! That picture of your last daughter with Herm is a treasure and can be a beacon of light, hope and example for your youngest daughter’s future!! May Herm be multiplied many times over!!

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    1. Thank you. I never thought of it that way but am truly touched (bawling my eyes out) by your comment. I prayed over writing this post and could not rest or do anything else until I’d written it because of the impact she’s had on my life and others.

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  3. What a powerful testimony of her walk with God and her encouragement to others. Reading the story I felt her love for Christ and for the body of Christ. She truly shined His love. I’d like to think those pictures were a gift. ❀

    I will be sharing this post on the community spotlight on Inside Cup. It will appear at the end of the month πŸ™‚

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    1. Whenever someone comments about Herm it makes me weep because I miss her so much but it feels good to cry over missing her. She is rejoicing in heaven right now. It’s a huge comfort to me. Thank you deeply for sharing this memory with others!! Praise God her story will be remembered!

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    1. Words can not express how much sharing Herm’s story means to me!! I plan on writing and sharing more about her as an example of true Christian forgiveness when I can. I pray that God gives me the words to speak on her behalf. I miss her every day. Thank you TR!!! Much love dear friend!πŸ€—πŸ˜’β€β€β€

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  4. Thank you so much for sharing this story with me Vivian. Just as my post brought you tears, yours has also brought me tears. I’m sorry for your loss. What you wrote about your dear friend you’ve worded so beautifully. It will also be an encouragement and help to those who need to know that God will be right there till the very end. I hope you don’t feel guilty any more. I hope you know that God gave you a sweet opportunity to see your friend that last time. πŸ˜₯ We don’t always understand why God doesn’t prevent every loss, but we do know that He is merciful. God bless you my friend. ❀

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    1. You’re very welcome Tina! **tears**
      It truly means a lot you read this tribute to Herm. She is always in my heart. I have come to understand the providence of God more and that it was her time to go. Thankfully, the guilt has gone, but the regret still remains. I can definitely agree that it was God’s gift to see her prior to her accident and an opportunity to hug her one last time. God is so kind in always lavishing gifts and cherished moments on us, even if we don’t realise it. Your friend Robert’s life will always be close to your heart and knowing he still loves you because love never dies. Hugs! God bless you too.

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  5. I’m so sorry for the loss of this wonderful friend, family of your sweet family. It is truly tragic how much harm can be done by one fouling decision.
    You did nothing wrong. She sits with our Lord and savior and she’s in heaven smiling at you.
    Blessings to you, as you remember your sweet friend during this time. πŸ™πŸ½

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    1. Thank you Ana. The pain of losing her is still intense. I thought time would heal that, as I’ve often heard, but it only helped me accept it. I do believe you’re right–she is in heaven with Jesus and I know she watches over me as she smiles. My heart goes out to her family as well at this time. Thank you my friend! I often think about her holding my daughter right before she held Jesus!!! A beautiful picture. β€πŸ˜’πŸ’•πŸ’•

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    1. This is huge!! THANK YOU for sharing to your FB and Pinterest and now here on your blog. It touches my heart and soul. Raising awareness is so important and hits close to home when it’s a close friend killed. Bless you brother.

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  6. Thank you for sharing the legacy of your dear friend. What a heartbreaking story. So many times we read stories like this in the newspaper but we forget this was a real person who is now missed terribly by loved ones. Thank you for raising awareness about this danger.

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    1. Oh no, dear Kathy! I’m sorry.πŸ˜” That is a huge problem nowadays. There is a memorial on our highway for a 17 year old girl killed because she was tweeting on twitter. So sad.

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