For several years, I have felt like I have given myself an emotional brain injury, by constantly trying to answer questions regarding my infirmities to people, begging them to understand, offering blog posts to read, and health articles, and striving to gain acceptance in a very unaccepting world. At times it’s figuratively felt like beating my head against a brick wall of judgement, ignorance and unsupport. Hence, I have felt defeated and almost like giving up because my rare case has left me in a constant state of being on the defense and exhausted.

So, last week after my Good Eyes, Bad Brain post, a dear blogging friend Renee said three of the most powerfully supportive words I had been hoping to hear.

She said, ” We all understand”

Renee used her insights specifically to encourage my heart by saying that my loving blogging family all understand and I don’t need to worry about keeping up if having a tough time of it. I felt sincerely understood and isn’t that what we all hope to gain? There is such comfort and peace when the body of Christ says that they understand. It’s a genuinely priceless gift!!

If you are not following her awesome Blog, “Heart Tokens”, I strongly encourage you to do so immediately! She has a very unique perception on life and people and uses her wisdom while she writes beautiful posts from the heart.

What a wonderful encouragement three little words brought to my heart!! They were actually three very big words and dearest Renee, I am so blessed and thankful for you. God used YOU to encourage me last week and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your beautiful, thoughtful, heart tokens!!

Has someone’s words comforted or encouraged you lately? A fellow blogger? A family member or friend? I’d love to hear about it.

Much love,

Viv πŸ’š

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Author: Viv

I'm a spoonie mom whose husband is fighting glioblastoma diagnosed 3/25/21. πŸ™

40 thoughts on ““WE ALL UNDERSTAND””

  1. it is such a blessing to hear the words that you have craved for so long……….i am thrilled for you. just remember that it is not your job to make other people understand……..if you haven’t lived it, you can’t truly get it! live your life without worry about what others think, it too me WAY TOO long to figure this one out…….God bless you my dear.

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    1. Yes, very good advice Wendi. I am discouraged indeed that this bothers me so much. Trying to shake it off but allowing ppl to get to me with their unkindness. God’s definitely working on thickening my skin that’s mostly thin and transparent. I am blessed by your insights…..I know you get it and I cherish your zeal in helping me dear one! πŸ€—πŸ’š

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      1. I completely understand Vivian, like you I live with people not understanding…….just remember it’s not your job to educate them, unless you want to, some people just don’t want to know the truth.
        Just keep moving forward………Blessings in abundance I pray for you and yours.

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      2. Thank you precious!! I’m so encouraged by your support and pep talk. I need it. Last month was hard but God is helping me let go. And you are right……some ppl don’t want to know the truth. ❀❀❀

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    1. It sure is a blessing when others come along and stand with you, not judging or criticizing, just being supportive and showing God’s love. It’s refreshing to the spirit and fills the heart with hope. God bless you always Ryan. β˜ΊπŸ™

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  2. I felt bad that you were feeling this way. I don’t know who would ever be unkind to you when you are so honest, and encouraging. It’s bad enough to feel bad physically, which leads to feeling bad emotionally(at least in my case) then have someone heap something on top of that is beyond my understanding. I thank God for you, and ask Him to give you peace where this is concerned πŸ™‚

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    1. Margaret, thank you for your sweet compassion! My blogging family is amazing!! The people in my life who have not been supportive don’t read my blog and therefore can’t understand but I’m learning to be okay with it and just live Ephesians 4: 1 daily, worthy of the special calling God has given. Yes, our emotions play a HUGE part in our health. I truly believe that. Thank you for your concern and love! I certainly feel tempted towards numbness and standofishness but I know God wants me hang on, loving ppl and forgiving them, just as He has forgiven me. ❀❀❀

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      1. Amen, and if you heed to the LORD’s calling for you, it will be fruitful. Easy, comfortable, well received, not always πŸ™‚ BUT it will be pleasing to God. The tragic outcome would be numbness and standoffishness because you have so much to offer. BUT you don’t have to always be the giver, there is also room for rest πŸ™‚ God rested on the 7th day.

        Forgiving, such an easy and yet hard thing to do. I wasn’t feeling very forgiving yesterday. It was horrible health wise and when I said I was exhausted, the reply from a family member was welcome to my world. I worked a full week. My thought was at least you have an excuse. I mean I had a packed week plus taking care of the house and family. BUT my illness can’t be seen except in the bloodwork. Since I don’t β€œlook” sick there isn’t much support from others πŸ™‚ Most days it rolls off because I am use to it. Yesterday though, I was so bad that my β€œforgiving” was delayed in coming πŸ™‚ God is merciful and He will renew us.

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      2. Very true, God did rest and that is an excellent example…….resting in Him, giving it to Him and trusting.

        Oh dear Margaret!πŸ˜” I’m sorry you had an awful day yesterday and for the lack of empathy from family. It’s hard. It hurts. I understand about not “looking sick” and the hard assumptions ppl make. I get that a lot!! But, even my mama gets ppl not understanding and she’s in a wheelchair. It’s very sad but she is tough living 70 years with CP. Our comfort is knowing God understands and loves us and yes, He renews us day by day. ☺❀❀

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  3. dear Beautiful Vivian – thank you for your beautiful heart and sharing! i feel blessed to read this and pray for God’s light and love to surround you a million times around, over and beyond, keeping you always in the lap of His pure love. I felt so touched by your post and how you described those precious three words. Wish you a beautiful weekend, dear friend.

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    1. Dearest Krishna, thank you for your LOVE. I’m so glad those words touched you too!! Aren’t loving words a powerful thing? They are soothing and comforting to the soul.

      Have a wonderful weekend sweetheart and thank you so much for your sweet comments. Much love!! ❀❀❀

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  4. Viv…..you don’t how much this has meant to me!!!! I look like a blubbering, crying mess right now! 😭 I just want to show the same kind of comfort and understanding to others that God has shown me so many times! We live in a hateful world, we all can agree to this, with so many people lashing out in their pain. But God has shown me recently that it’s not His plan for hurting people to hurt people, but hurting people are to HELP people. I can’t speak for all on here, but I have been surrounded by lots of wonderful, loving people in our precious blogosphere! I have only encountered one hateful person which was yesterday, actually. They lashed out at someone on their post, and I reminded them there was no place for that here. We all have so much negativity around us, but we don’t have to let it get in our hearts! I love you so much my sweet, sweet sister in Christ! Thanks for making my day! Feel free to email me anytime if you need to vent. I won’t judge nor share it with others. πŸ€—β€οΈ God Bless!!!

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    1. Awwwwww!!! I love your honesty Renee, and am so blessed by you and your heart. So sorry to make you cry though but I think those tears were happy ones and I’m so blessed to know you. This world is so full of mean hateful ppl. I never knew this until I became disabled which is a shame but it’s also been a gift for now my heart aches for all ppl who suffer. Yes, yes, hurting ppl help ppl. I love that!!!! This new family of mine, my blogging family, is such a amazing gift…….it’s almost as if God is showing us a small glimpse of what heaven will be like. A huge amazing group of loving Christians gathered in once place to praise God!
      Awwww, I’m glad you spoke out for the negative comment. It’s great to know you’ve got our backs!!
      Are you on Facebook?
      If so, can we be friends? I’m actually deactivated on facebook but have messenger so you can search me through messenger, because of the voice clips it’s easy for me to talk vs. type.

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      1. I think we all go through seasons of cleansing tears. Thanks so much for that! It was happy tears! I had just shared what was on my mind today, when I read your post. I shared the song, Jesus Friend of Sinners by Casting Crowns. I feel even though we become Saints, we are all sinners. We all have weaknesses, faults and failures, and I’m so glad that God never did nor will ever turn His back on THIS sinner-ME! I feel like Paul, the chief of sinners lol. I just want to be the kind of friend that God has been to me!…I normally don’t call people out for rudeness, but I have seen this same person do this several times to this person, who doesn’t deserve it on their uplifting posts!So, I just felt led to remind that person this is a β€œsafe haven.” They are no doubt hurting….Your posts always bless me! And there are so many here who bless me! I wish I had the words to tell everyone that!…I like that idea that this is a little piece of Heaven here! I agree! I’m on fb, and yes we can be friends there. Will look you up. I have pulled back on getting on there so much myself, and is the reason for the post of that song. People are lashing out so much in my friends list! It’s sad…

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      2. Goodness me Facebook is a war zone! I had to deactivate my account (first time in 11 years) because I was going nuts with the drama and my poor eyes/brain were going nuts too!!😣 But, I am on messenger so gladly will connect with you! Yippee!!πŸ˜„

        I love that song too. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! They are so refreshing and what a huge blessing to my life you are.

        Much love and big hugs!


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  5. God knows your heart; that is what matters.

    β€œFor the mountains may be removed and the hills may shake,
    But My lovingkindness will not be removed from you,
    And My covenant of peace will not be shaken,”
    Says the Lord who has compassion on you.
    Isaiah 54:10

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    1. That is my comfort dearest Kim. Oh, I love this passage!! Thank you for writing it for me!πŸ˜„πŸ˜„β€β€ LOVE you. β€πŸ€—


  6. Dear Vivian, I’m glad you’ve found great encouragement through this blogging community. I myself have enjoyed the uplifting experiences which can be made possible through this platform.
    There is one thought I would like to offer you. It is something I have taken immense delight and comfort in when I’ve begun to feel discouraged by the actions/words/attitudes/behaviour of the people around me. Here it is: Though others may reject me, my Saviour never will. Though the world may hate me, my Lord’s gracious love towards me is constant and without end. Whenever I remember this, my love and appreciation for Christ multiplies. I can’t help but thank Him, praise Him and delight all the more in Him. πŸ™‚

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    1. Thank you for this reminder Emma. I have had to speak this truth to my heart often and thank you for speaking it too. I have actually written about this topic before but it’s always a battle that seems to rear it’s ugly head in my life over and over again. Thank you for your thoughts and concern, I know they were given with Christian love. I could use prayer. β€πŸ€—

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      1. Just finished reading it… πŸ‘πŸ»
        Excellent response! I was so uplifted to consider how Jesus Himself chose to respond to the injustice He received. Great encouragement, Vivian! πŸ’œ

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      2. Thank you for reading it! I know it was long. Jesus, is my example of how to respond since He usually said nothing in His own defense which I am learning (slowly) to do. But, it’s not possible in my own efforts…..I need Him to help me!!


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  7. Viv, it’s shameful that ppl can’t keep their nastiness to themselves. They use it to feel better themselves in their misery. Wanting to pull you down with them, instead of turning their thinking/heart around and be uplifted.
    God’s grace is upon us/you to turn the other cheek and walk away at that moment, for one can not reason with disgruntled individuals. Hopefully through our actions they too can understand.

    We do understand, the struggles each of us goes through whether mental, physical or spiritual (or combo of), that is ever present in this current life. We rise above it and show Christ in us, through these trials. As Renee has said, “I just want to be the kind of friend that God has been to me!”. That says it all. If one can’t be a helper then he is a hindrance. Both prayer and patience is needed.

    People praised Jesus, used Him, sang ‘Hosanna’ to Him, why because they thought He offered them physical relief of their temporary life. Yet He was all about the spiritual self, when He showed His humility, His higher purpose these same ppl shouted, ‘crucify him’. Ask yourself where were their hearts, compassion, when earthly things (thinking) didn’t materialize the way they wanted it. He didn’t offer a bed of roses living in this world only grace to overcome it’s obstacles. With Him the truth is known and our spirit is uplifted in hope of what He does offer.
    If they couldn’t understand Him (then & now) and His loving ways, it’s easy to see they won’t understand you. Their trust is misplaced, they see no hope; while your’s is solid in/on Christ. We are to take it as victory their scorn, for it shows we’re on the right path. John 15:25 tells us they hated Him without cause. And it has manifested, continued in our lives. Rise above the noise of the crowd and let His Spirit shine. Hope is a blessing in whatever we are going through.
    Austin Sparks has written this profound prayer that has carried me through in my own struggles: “Lord, there is power to carry me through, and by prayer I come in to touch that power to carry me through the trials of every day in relation to the meaning of the trial.”

    It has taken me a long time to come to this conclusion, to understand to trust God above everything and everyone else. First Him and everything else will fall into place on His timetable. This world is geared on instant gratification, while God teaches through our sorrows, weakness to come to Him, whether we cause it or others do or it just happens. We know who’s to blame, who really wants our demised. Scripture’s tells us we wrestle not with our own kind but principalities, evil in higher places, (Eph 6:12). God uses all of it to teach both us and others patience and to hang on to love (Him) in adversary. Let’s hang on to the hope of friendship, brotherhood and unity in Christ. And never let go of His truth.

    Thank you for showing your vulnerability, each of us at one point or another feel as well. And I agree, together let’s build each other up, and prepare ourselves for God’s kingdom.
    Blessings always, dear Vivian. Continue to move forward…

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    1. Thank you so much. Your words are very comforting to me. I am not sure it was wise for me to be so opened with my feelings. I am sure that God understands my heart, my feelings, everything……and that comforts me immensely.

      God bless you for such a loving response today. It means a lot to me!



  8. Thanks for this post Vivian! I was just feeling this way yesterday when I was trying to express how I was feeling. It was shrugged off. I’m learning two things: one that it’s so easy for us to do this. It’s so easy for us to just shrug things off or dismiss people’s struggles. And two: Not everyone will listen or take the time to understand and encourage, but I do have people in my life who have taken the time to listen. I’ll be sharing more about this in future posts. Thanks for sharing. ❀ I'll definitely be checking out "Heart Tokens" You're a wonderfully supportive friend. ❀

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    1. It hurts to be shrugged off. Dearest Tina, I know I have done this too. Once, years before I became ill, I asked my neighbor’s daughter in law if she was better from Lymes. I remember the hurt look in her eyes and her hubby said, “we’re getting there”. I didn’t know Lymes was chronic and my ignorance in asking if she was feeling better hurt her. I truly meant no harm but still feel sad I was so ignorant and insensitive. πŸ˜” Yes, not everyone will listen or make time to understand and it’s hard but knowing God understands and gets it comforts greatly. I look forward to your future posts Tina!! They really encourage me and my walk with the Lord. Yes, Renee is a dear! You will be blessed!!

      Much love!

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  9. It is amazing how He uses others to speak to us. Just last week you encouraged me when I shared my fear in the night. He has used so many in the community to speak to me. You’re a blessing to me!

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    1. Awwww really? I’m so glad TR! I did hesitate a wee bit but then realised how much it may encourage you to relate. And I was so very encouraged by what you wrote too because that issue has left me feeling troubled. Now, we can pray together for this. πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–

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      1. Overall, I’m a lot better πŸ™‚ it’s only occasional now, if that. I’ve been resting in abiding in Christ and knowing He abides in me. I’m thankful you reached out and shared! I know the Lord has shown me understanding toward others in the experience. We must be heartfelt and loving even when others do not understand, and I know what it is like to be misunderstood. Thanks for understanding πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–

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      2. I don’t tell others of my issues because of misunderstanding. So, it was GREAT you shared TR. I feel less scared that I’m ready for the Looney Bin. 🀣

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