Some Blogging Insights

Start a blog, they said. It will be fun, they said.

Although my experience as a blogger has been mostly positive, I do want to share two hidden discouragements I believe we bloggers are apt to stumble across from time to time. Quite possibly they may bruise us, and leave us feeling unsettled, and can make us question our approach to the whole blogosphere.

1) Judging our writing based on other’s interactions, responses, or likes.

Okay, this one is hard because we feel the need for postive feedback and comments yet that doesn’t mean we are good bloggers because our blog looks like it’s smoking hot after every post with loads of interactions. It may be your likes and followers are high momentarily, but that is a very subjective and can change in a gradual incline or decline. There are excellent blogs out there with tons of great information and writing styles which appear to be more dormant but looks can be deceiving. One of my favorite blogs, jumbledbrain.com, looks very quiet from a blogger’s viewpoint but she has risen to one of the top 30 blogs in the world with thousands of email subscribers. If people sign up for your blog through email because of finding you through internet social media, that is a very good indication your blog offers something they are looking for. Don’t be discouraged if sometimes your posts go mainly unnoticed. There are more highly trafficked days and times for blogging and sometimes just strategic timing can bring the most traffic to your blog. Write from your heart and be you. Keep those posts from going on too long. Sometimes great writers can write lengthy posts and most people just don’t have that kind of time. Put your blinders on, and remember to dig in and stay focused on your true purpose as a blogger. If you wrote your heart out and didn’t receive much feedback, remember, lots of people may read and enjoy your blog but never leave a comment. A lot of us are introverts and like to read and ingest what we read quietly.

2) Being yourself may lead to negative feedback.

Yes, we want feedback, as I mentioned above, but it’s tough when it’s not always postive. As a Christian blogger who bears her heart openly on WordPress, I’ve learned to realize that if I’m transparent, I need to willingly take the heat from others. I am more of a sensitive soul, so I can get a bit worked up when others find fault in me through my writing. Now, I can be safe and write from a strictly objective viewpoint but I believe my subjective, honest writings are more helpful to other people who are hurting and therefore I continue to write being fully aware that my openness may lead to open criticism. Do I need to have thicker skin? Absolutely! I have had to remind myself that although it hurts to receive negative feedback, I truly did bring it upon myself through my openness, so I have chosen to open the door to receiving criticism. It’s my choice to say what I say, so I must choose to live with the consequences too. I can play it safe and close myself off with mainly impersonal writings, but my personal mission as a blogger wouldn’t be as effective so I choose to be real. Since being real may mean being vulnerable to criticism, I definitely need to thicken my skin and look at it as battle wounds for the cause of Christ, knowing that He sees the intentions of my heart: seeking to help, bless, and uplift others who are hurting. Because most people generally like reading posts that they can relate to, I will continue to write from my heart in hopes to be a blessing.

I prayed before writing this post that it would be helpful to another blogger out there who may be new to blogging or facing the same challenges I have faced. I pray God blesses each and every one of you as you seek to write for whatever your blogging mission may be, and that your blogging experience is a deeply blessed and rewarding one.

With much love,

Viv ✍🙏

Welcoming Autumn

Hi friends! I wanted to share with you my daughter’s brand new blog, Mischief and Mjolnir! So let’s all give this cherished young lady a big huge welcome and follow. She’s an excellent writer and faithfully helps her poor brain injured mama edit her own blog each week. I can go on and on but I’m just going to let you see for yourself.

Welcome to WordPress dearest Autumn!!

Much love,

Viv (Mama)🤗😄💃💃

What Wolves Are You Fighting? (Tell the story challenge)

When darkness is around you and black howls of night

Remember this gives wolves the chance at a fight

For they can be prowlers and howlers so scary and mean

Those wolves of discouragments trying to get in

They come as shape shifters, to slay and to kill

Discouraging trials against hope and goodwill

Or maybe those wolves come in shapes of real doubt

Doubting God’s goodness within and without

Trials that bite and tear at your heart

Can a kind Father let your good life depart?

Or maybe your wolf is a wolf of unbelief

Thinking your God cares not for your soul’s grief

What now can be happening, you say, I can’t figure

I just slayed one wolf now the pack has grown bigger

A wolf of worry sneaked up on your couch

Sniffing and making you dread all life’s ouch

The big hungry wolf you can’t get out of your hair

The relentless belligerent wolf of despair

He always attacks when you’re not on your feet

Forcing the thoughts that you’re now in defeat

Dear friend, go to God in prayer for this fight

Your strength to slay wolves is because of His might

His word put around as shields to protect you

Those wolves won’t get in, since His promises hold true

God gives you His strength in the darkness of night

Hold on and slay wolves knowing God is your light

Written by Vivian Joy

Thank you to Eclectic Contrarian for tagging me on this picture prompt post. I nominate any of my readers who would like to participate.

Here are my pictures and have fun!

Viv🤗

One Year Blogging Anniversary and Viv’s Blog Party!!🎉

Yes!! One year!! I can hardly believe it!! It’s been a challenge but has also been greatly rewarding as well! I’ve been richly blessed with new friendships and blogging has given me a sense of purpose in my suffering, as I minister to others who suffer.

Okay, so let’s have some fun, fun, fun!!

This is our party and as your hostess, please follow me and feel free to mingle.

At every party there must be lots of talking, laughing, and just having fun, so please;

**Share your blog. Your purpose for blogging. Your heart. I want to hear about YOU.

**Read other’s comments and show the love by liking their comments and following them. It’s loads of fun and so rewarding!

I met one of my closest friends Kim from a blogging party last year hosted by Savannah. Kim and I do regular Bible studies together 3× a week and chat via voice clips daily. Her friendship has become so special to me and I praise God for the blog party last May that led me to her!!

So, like, comment, and talk. Find new bloggers with the same purpose and interests and you never know, you just may find your own “Kim” and be blessed beyond what you could ever dream of.

I love you all!!

Viv🎉🎈

The Reason I Blog

In the beginning of April 2018, I made the decision to start a blog, so my friends and family would better understand what I was going through physically and so I could gain their support from that understanding and in turn feel less unsupported.

Well, it didn’t work like I thought it would. For starters, I couldn’t get most of them to read my blog or sign up to receive emails!! The response I felt was a bit lack luster and lame.

Now what? Of course my dear parents signed up to receive emails and my best friend Michelle but I already felt supported, loved, and understood by them anyways…..just not everyone else!

One day my mama told me that my blog greatly encouraged her. She went on to say she actually loved my blog and expectantly looked forward to my posts. She began encouraging me to write, write, write and share my heart.

I started to see the bigger picture here: God wanted me to write to give hope, encouragement, and share Him with others.

It wasn’t about me anymore and making people “get” what I’m going through….it was about ministering to others who suffer and bringing glory to God!

My mission was changed.

I began to write for others and in the process I began to know a deeper healing through giving hope to them.

From the beginning, my initial intentions had been selfish and all about me but God changed my approach and gave my suffering a sense of purpose through blogging for others by sharing my hope.

And in the process, I’ve discovered my purpose, received greater healing, and formed deep forever friendships I would have never had if I didn’t have this TBI, and didn’t put one foot forward into the realm of blogging.

Only God can do this! Praise be unto Him! His plan is always perfect and He always knows what we need in order to break out of our shells and emerge as brilliant pearls with a heart’s passion for Him.

Much love,

Viv 🤗

P.S. For my WordPress friends; I plan on having a blog party here soon. This will give you the opportunity to share your blog, passion and mission for blogging…..stay tuned! 😄💙🌎