Soft Hearted

“A soft heart in a cruel world is not a sign of weakness but courage.”

This encouraging quote was on a church sign that we passed today and I just had to share. May we keep on loving like Jesus loved with a tender heart that is unafraid to show His love in a broken and fallen world.

Much love,

Viv πŸ€—

1 John 4:7-8 King James Version (KJV)

7 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.

8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.

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You Don’t Look Sick

Has this been said to you? Those of us chronically ill or injured have probably been given this all too common line, “You don’t look sick.” Or how about this one, “Well, you look good!”*

If we look sick, we are sick, if we don’t look sick we aren’t. Right? No!

Most people have five senses; taste, touch, see, smell, and hear. Now, we can mistakenly use our sense of sight to judge someone’s sense of touch.

An injured brain can not be seen. The brain is enclosed by the skull and a protective water layer called dura matter (both of which are damaged on me). Injured brains are felt.

Fatigue can not be seen, it’s felt.

We can’t judge a person’s sense of feeling based on our sense of sight.

This is why invisible illness is so misjudged ending up with the ill feeling very much alone.

I met a lady in my brain injury group whose teenage son suffered a severe traumatic brain injury after being struck by a car and then run over by a second car which dragged his body underneath it before stopping. When she arrived at the hospital she told me he looked to her like an alien. His brain was actually visible and he was so beyond recognition, she could only identify him based on the fact that he bit his nails which was the only recogizable part of him. This is probably the worst case of TBI I have ever heard of, and by some miracle, her son survived his brain injury but with many many deficits.

Yet, this is not the norm. TBI is typically an invisible malady. It effects all of life in so many various aspects most of which go unseen to onlookers. TBI is felt. Chronic fatigue is felt. Autoimmune diseases are felt.

We want to be well. We don’t want to wake up every day wondering what we have to do to just barely get by. We don’t want to tell our best friend we can’t receive her visit because we are too weak. We hate missing church. We want to get up, feet hit the ground running and get everything done while having strength and energy to play with our kids and make chocolate cake for dessert.

Not all ilnesses are visible, rather, they are hidden inside the intricate workings of our very fragile bodies that can easily become disfunctional living in this fallen world. While we may not look sick, believe me when I say we are bravely fighting every day and never, ever giving up….. and are courageously smiling and enduring through the pain.

Much love,

Viv 😍

*This post was written a long time ago. I’m no longer frustrated over the way people respond to invisible illness, but I still feel this post holds a few valuable insights worth sharing with others. ~Viv

For You πŸ’–

A very sweet lady wrote these comforting words for me and I now pass them along to YOU my beautiful readers. Whatever is bothering you, wherever you are, however you feel. At this very moment, YOU ARE LOVED!

Wish I could sit down with you and give you a long, gentle hug.

I am sad to hear all of the pain in your voice.

I get it though.

You are Enough.

You are Beautiful inside and out.

God is with you.

He is your nearest, your dearest Friend.

He will never leave you.

He will never forsake you.

He will never be too sick.

He will always be there for you.

Always.

I am praying that He will wrap His Arms

around you and be your Comfort and your

JOY right now.


And that’s my prayer for you too! If you are sad, lonely, depressed…..look up. God cares and hears your cries. He understands. He knows. He will never leave or forsake you. Ever. Run to Him. Sit at the foot of the cross in full surrender and let it all go.

Much love,

Viv πŸ™β€

Healing words

There are two kinds of words; words that hurt and words that heal. We all do it. We use words like daggers cutting people down into bits with our tongues. The problem is once they pop out they can’t be permanently erased even after apologizing profusely.

When my kids were in kindergarten our curriculum had a special fun project we did to demonstrate the importance of using words for good and not evil. I would give them a band-aid to keep in their pocket. Then I instructed them to give it to someone else who was sad, hurt or upset. We used the visual band-aid to demonstrate the deep importance of using healing words, like the band-aid helps to heal hurts, so the words we use can heal, restore and bring balm to the broken. They loved it, (especially when I had Spider Man band-aids) because in their 6 year old minds, band-aids always make the boo boos better.

Words are very powerful things. The sticks and stones rhyme can not be farther from true, because physically words can hurt us, since our emotions and bodies are so intermixed.

We have a choice; we can choose to use our words to heal, like band-aids or hurt like daggers. It’s not easy controlling our tongues but with God’s help through prayer and a heart that desires to honor God in all we say, we can choose to use words that heal and in the process those healing words will be balm to our own souls too.

Much love and blessings,

VivπŸ’š

Be Kind

When given the choice between being right or being kind, choose kind.

R.J. Palacio~ Wonder

It’s been years since reading this book but the impact is still there.

Here are some other powerful quotes on kindness;

Have you ever noticed how much
of Christ’s life was spent in doing kind things?

~Henry Drummond

He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?

~Micah 6:8

If you want to be holy, be kind.

~Frederick Buechner

Kindness has converted more sinners than zeal, eloquence, or learning.

~Frederick W. Faber

Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.

~Mother Teresa

He who withholds kindness from a friend forsakes the fear of the Almighty.

~Job 6:14

Kindness makes a person attractive. If you would win the world, melt it, do not hammer it.

~Alexander MacLaren

He that is kind is free, though he is a slave; he that is evil is a slave, though he be a king.

~Augustine

The first thing a kindness deserves is acceptance, the second, transmission.

~George Macdonald

What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?

~Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Ephesians 4:32 King James Version (KJV)

32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

God bless and keep you today.

Remember that you never know fully what a person is going through, or what brokenness they feel, so be kind.