My father-in-law and husband had a huge blow up that went unresolved for over 2 years during which there was no interaction, no holidays, no visits, or phone calls.
See, they were so much alike, both quiet, strong, INFJs, who march to the beat of their own drums. Because of this, there were walls of awkward silence, barricading them from reaching out, picking up the phone and hashing it out. Instead, it was silence.
I had prayed hard for years that there could be restoration and removal of hurts, forgiveness, and opened love displayed. God heard my cries and after two years and seven months of silence my husband told his mom in June of 2017, we would like to come visit for Thanksgiving. When she told my father-in-law his joyful response was “Oh sure!” He was happy to know he would see his son and four grandchildren again.
But, in July, about three weeks later, he died suddenly of a massive heart attack.
The news hit hard.
We would never see him again. My husband would never see his dad, never hear his voice. Never make amends.
It was too late.
Life is hard. Things happen. People make mistakes. Blow up. Yell. Say things that are better left unsaid.
But, at the end of the day, God’s word holds true. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath. (Ephesians 4:26)
We are never guaranteed tomorrow.
We are only given today.
So, pick up the phone this father’s day. Better yet, go see your dad. Even a card in the mail can melt away hurt and slowly open the lines of communication. (We did this.)
I know these relationships can be tricky, stressful, messed up, and hard but honestly, don’t let the sun go down on your wrath. You may never get another chance to make things right. I’ve seen it and lived it with my own eyes and l hope this post I write encourages someone out there to try to make things right. All we can do is try and leave the rest up to God. He is Healer of hurts. He helps us forgive. He can bring about reconciliation.
Please, this Father’s Day, go call your dad!